:: Thursday, August 01, 2002 ::

“Men – they’re here to rock your world!” (TV Commercial this morning)

Every female born into this world should come with a book explaining exactly how each man she will ever meet will feel about her, and how she should respond in each situation. You menfolk have it easier than you know… “Will you go out with me?” How hard is it to ask 6 monosyllabic words and leave the results up to the gal?
Meanwhile, take a peek into the female mind: “Oh no, not this question! If I say yes, I might get into an imbalanced situation in which I feel stifled and begin to pull away, causing him to try even harder, pushing me further away, ending in an emotional and confusing break-up! On the other hand, maybe he really does like me a lot, and if I said no, he would go into hibernation and his eyes would forever hold the look of a betrayed and deeply-wounded puppy. But if I said yes, and we ended up in a functional relationship, it would hurt him even more when I broke it off… after all, I can’t see myself ever marrying him! Of course, he could be Mr. Right and I could be passing up my one chance for lifelong bliss. On the other hand, he could just be one of those needy, possessive guys, or maybe a player who will virtually ignore me after I agree to a relationship. He is a fun guy to hang out with… but I don’t really know him all that well, and jumping into a dating relationship would only make things awkward. So I’ll tell him I only want to be friends. But what if he’s the kind of guy that takes 'Just friends' as a more acute rejection than a flat-out 'No'? Or what if he’s the kind of guy that takes 'Just friends' as a shy 'Yes' and never leaves me alone again? Or what if he understands 'Just friends' to mean 'Just friends', but we can never feasibly be friends because of the awkwardness of knowing he once asked me out? So I can’t say 'Yes,' I can’t say 'No,' and I can’t say 'Just friends.' That leaves 'Maybe,' which leaves the whole situation unconcluded, giving him unnecessary hope or plaguing him with the unnecessary anguish of suspense. Oh, why did God have to make men? Why? Why?”
I have to wonder sometimes if guys are clueless as to the mental agony they produce. Or do they go through mental agony of their own? (“Inconceivable!”) If you have any insight, by all means, share!

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